Small Signs of Drama

Maya Angelou, once said “when someone shows you who they are the first time believe them” That is the issue that most of us women have. We meet a man who looks good, has a job and is seeking us; however when he shows us who he is we don’t believe him. We have a real knack for trying to change men to become who we think they should be, or ignoring the traits and characteristics that spell out DANGER! ABUSIVE! DISRESPECTFUL! LAZY! Just to name a few.

I once dated a guy who would say to me “call me when you get home from work” when I called him, he would be like “what’s up”? In a tone as if I was bothering him. In our initial conversation he led me to believe he either wanted to hang out or was just simply interested in my day and wanted to talk to me. By the end of the conversation, I would end up cussing him out and hanging up on him. In less than twenty minutes he was at my door with a stupid smile saying “what’s up”. He thought this was funny, I didn’t. He did its three times total before I issued him his walking papers. The moral of this story is that this person would take control of my emotions and abuse them. One moment I am having a nice day and the next I am cussing him out, followed by him at my door like there was a joke we were both in on.

He showed me what our relationship would be up and down, back and forth. I didn’t want a relationship where I had to say F*** you, every day and twice on Sunday. I knew what I wanted and what I did not want, and that was a jacked up relationship.

 Ladies, know what it is that you want and don’t take anything less than within reason. Listen, acknowledge and believe all of the signs a man gives you. Cut it off early before you get to deep in. Make sure that the person you are with warrants your time, love and energy. “When someone shows you who they are the first time believe them”…..Maya Angelou