Believe Him

So, I am watching Couples Therapy (don't ask me why) and DMX and his wife who is seperated six years from is on the show. They are on the show because his wife wants to try and save their relationship before it is too late, mind you this is six years into seperation. I was irritated, frustrated and then sad for her because she sadly thinks very little of herself and the love and relationship she deserves. Naturally being upset at DMX and shaking your head at him seems to be the most natural sensible thing to do, but there is one huge problem. He told her that she knew he was a player and loved various women (nicely put) when they met, he has never changed and never professed to be anyone else. She then agreed that she thought that ring on her finger would have made him change.

Now the blame is shifted from him to her, because he told her who he was twenty years ago, displayed behavior to confirm who he was throughout their relationship and she still stayed, married him and had four children by him. What in the world is the problem? It's like she went down to the big white building, waited in line through the cold, rain and snow and ordered twenty plus years of pain, heartache, feelings of loneliness, disrespect and neglect just to name a few. This person she married (can't call him a man) had six kids by various other women throughout their relationship, served unnecessary jail time and God knows what else and guess what? She is sitting on a national television show viewed by millions of young people, including her children I am sure trying to piece together a dysfunctional, destructive relationship.

Please know, I believe that people can change, I know that we are not perfect beings, and I know that ultimately there is a reason she feels so little of herself to allow, and be apart of such a mess of a relationship; however, it really is sad to see and know that she is not the only woman ignoring all of the flashing red lights.

Again, from the great Maya Angelou " When someone shows you who they are the first time believe them"