How many times have you been addressed as “Man” or “Eh” by someone you are dating or in a relationship with? How many times have you answered to it? Remember that you teach people how to treat and respect you. As a woman, you should not be addressed as “Man” or “Eh”, you may think this is small; but it is the small things that pile up and equate to big problems within a relationship. Being addressed as “Man” or “Eh” allows him to be a little looser with his conversation and tone with you. Men take care of those who they feel are precious, delicate and held in a high regard. If you are addressed as “Man” or “Eh” what makes you different from anyone else he may address on the street. Your man or potential man should have to always think before he just says anything to you. They should be mindful of the tone and words in which they speak to you. Don’t get me wrong, we don’t want men to walk on egg shells around us, and feel as though they can’t play or say anything to us; however they must stay respectful at all times, it’s called boundaries. Unfortunately, this process can be just like child rearing. The nature of a child is to explore and to see how far they can go before receiving consequences. The consequence is what is used to measure exactly how far they can go and in that distance what they can get away with. The same ideology goes for the man and the relationship. If he knows that you will not take anything less than respect and a level of treatment and conduct from him, he will comply. Let’s not forget ladies, there is a piece to this puzzle that sets the tone, and that is you and the respectful conduct in which you must maintain. There is power in patience, time and sometimes a closed mouth. Make sure you are respectful in your tone and mindful of the words you speak to him. Make sure you are his biggest cheerleader and not his biggest critic.
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