Having the biggest day of your life or the biggest life from your day

They say the biggest day of a womens life is her wedding day; I beg to differ.

Blood, Sweat and tears we give for that perfect day. We fantasize and plan our weddings to the T, the wedding date, find and/or purchase their wedding dress, the color scheme, the ring, the location and even what the groom will be wearing followed by the honeymoon. All of this is planned prior to being engaged and/or even dating their future husband. The plan is so perfectly planned except for one thing, what happens when the man comes along and he doesn’t fit the tux you picked out and he doesn’t want the big wedding and honeymoon? What happens when he wants to elope, save the money and begin his life with you? Do you go with it or force your preplanned wedding and marriage on him?

I ask this question because I don’t think a lot of people realize that marriage is hard work. It takes a conscious daily effort. This person is really the only person that can hurt your heart and soul. This person becomes closer to you then the people in the home you grew up in. He has become your immediate family and you are now responsible for the smiles, laughter and tears. The real wedding (celebration) of the marriage comes after you say I do. After he has picked you up when you fall, after he has wiped your tears and put a smile on your face. After he has stood for you now and asked questions later. The real wedding and celebration comes after you comfort and encourage him when the world has been harsh.

It’s ok to dream and plan, just know where and when the real work begins. Marriage can be the best thing, as long as you put forth 100 times more focus, effort, consideration and determination into the marriage after you say I do.