Is that a man?

What is your definition of a man? What does he look like? What type of character does he have? What is his value and belief system? What boundaries does he have? How does he live his life? So many women say they want a real man, or they are waiting for a real man, but I wonder do they know one when they see one.

The dictionary defines a man as an adult male person, as distinguished from a boy or a woman; a human individual as representing the species, a husband, a male lover or sweetheart, to act in a typically masculine way, as in taking responsibility or making tough decisions.

 The bible reads that a man’s complex nature is composed of two elements, body and soul or in “1 Thess. 5:23”, spirit and soul. The soul is the rationale and the spirit is considered the vital principle of the body. 

A man is not something that can be claimed because of the hair on his chest, or how deep his voice is. A man is the essence of a magnificent being, he is rigid and flexible. He can rule without an iron fist, and calm an upset amongst his loved ones. He protects and serves when applicable and he never abuses his power, or demeans his lover. A man is respectful and accepts nothing less for his woman. He is proud but not foolish, he is patient yet persistent and he keeps his word.

Before you begin to date ask yourself the first question above, what is your definition of a man and if you truly desire a real man? Take a look at some of the characteristics that should be present in a man:

ü  He must love the Lord and have or be seeking a better relationship with the Lord

ü  He must live with a purpose and have a direction in which he is seeking; he has a plan for his future (if he doesn’t see a future for his self how does that help you?).

ü  He must have a job- a man does not want to be a burden, men are naturally hunters and providers (GR doesn’t count)

ü  He must not live with his mother, auntie or cousin

ü  He is not an abuser of any kind (verbal, physical, emotional)

ü  He is dependable and his priorities are in tact

ü  He is not a dead beat dad