As women we set the tone in every relationship we have. We decide whether we have a Husband or Homie Lover Friend. Ladies, don’t sell yourself cheap. With a Homie Lover Friend you are allowing someone to use or borrow your goods, until they find the person they really want to love, honor, respect for better or worse. With a potential husband, he is working hard to please you, to show you the best part of him so that you know without a shadow of a doubt he values you and wants to make you his wife.
When you meet someone, be certain of what you desire. Don’t say one thing and do something different. Don’t sleep with him on the first date, the first month or fifth month. A potential husband should have to wait at least six months. You have to give him a chance to fall in love with everything you are. Men do not cherish or handle with care anything they don’t have to work hard for. You need that time to get to know him as well. You need to witness his day to day life, how he treats his mother or female family members in his life. Is there baby mama drama? Is he respectful of you? Is he controlling? Does he not stand up for himself or you? Is his mother obsessed and out of line in his life? These are just some of the things you need to know.
Don’t let his looks, cars, income or package cloud your judgment. I realize it can be hard to say no, or stand your ground and that’s why I say to know what you want first. If you are having fun and that’s it, great! If you are ready to settle down, you have to be smart and send the right messages. Oh, and don’t get discouraged with all of the junky men that may come your way, they are just a test.
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ReplyDeleteMan, your blogs are powerful!!!!!!!! I wish you would post them everyday to keep me on track in life.
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU for sharing your thought Tosha!!!! I enjoyed them so much that I shared IT ON MY FBook wall too!!!!! KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO!!! Much Love & Success from one Author to Another!!!
ReplyDeleteVery profound and powerful words. Women need to be clear of what they want. Mixed messages are often hurtful and misleading. They can leave scarring imprints lasting long after the relationship ends. Waiting for marriage until sharing the goodies is the best advice ever. The myriad of emotions that accompany great "goodie exchange" can cloud the warning signs that encourage you to walk away!!!
ReplyDeleteTOSHA,YOU ARE SUCH AN INSPIRATION,I LOVE EVEYTHING YOU HAVE SAID,ESPECIALLY THE ONE ABOUT A MAN USING YOU UNTIL HE FINDS WHAT HE WANTS..THAT WAS ME AN IM STILL FEELING THE PAIN,IM SO OVERCOME WITH THE WHY ME?OR WHAT DID I DO WRONG?IM BACK INTO CHURCH FOR MY PERSONAL STRENGHT.THE NAME CALLING ETC.THAT WAS THE RELATIONSHIP I WAS IN(NOTICE I SAID WAS).I STUMBLED ONTO THIS WEBSITE BECAUSE,HE WAS ACTUALLY FOLLOWING SOMEONE ON THIS WEBSITE,BECAUSE I JUST CLICKED ON IT.WELL IM GLAD I WAS ABLE TO READ YOUR BLOG AND IM READY TO CONQUER MY FEARS,BECAUSE THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THEIR FOR ME WHO WILL TREAT ME THE WAY A"QUEEN" SHOULD BE TREATED.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for you comment, thank you for reading and commenting on the blog Husband or Homie Lover Friend. God Bless you and Congrats on starting on the journey that God mean't for you. Knowing your self worth is so important and knowing that it is not about you, but it is about the person inflicting the abuse (verbal, emotional and/or physical)and their self portrait. You no longer have fear because you have God.