So, last night I was watching Basketball Wives (don’t judge me) LOL!! Anyway, I watched one of the cast members tell her fiancé that she would rather know if he was cheating, because she is not naive, she knows he is on the road and has access to other women. He then replied to her ‘this being committed to one person is something new he is trying and he is trying to become the man she needs and wants him to be. I am sorry ladies, but I just wanted to regurgitate!!!
Why does she feel like he is the best she can get? Why is he working on his self to become what she needs, wants and desires during the beginning stages of a relationship? Why is she giving him an out of being a real man?
Ladies, we must remember some very important things in life: we teach people how to treat us, if you set low boundaries, expect disrespectful results and/or treatment. Why are we waiting for his manhood to kick in? Manhood is not what’s between his legs, the hair on his chest, the base in his voice or how many women he can screw. Manhood is being a man of his word, be responsible in business and in his personal relationships, manhood is not pretending to be someone who you are not to please others. Manhood is taking care of your children without court assistance.
Ladies, why are we settling for less than what you are due? There are men who do not cheat and there are men who are grown and complete in themselves, ready and available for a relationship. I know the idiots come running towards you like gang-busters; however they are tests to see if you really know what you want and are willing to wait out the storm and idiots to receive it.
Listening to that woman talk saddened me, I was just baffled at the look on her face. She is going to continue to plan her wedding and hope and pray he doesn’t embarrass her any more in the future with rumors of other women, or worse like deliver her first class a disease. Set your standards and keep to them. A man wants to have his stuff together prior to hooking up with you if he has good intention and if he is man to the bone.
If he's not mature enough to be in a committed relationship, he should stay single. She should have more respect for herself than to stay with someone who doesn't value her enough not to cheat. If a guy has an inkling that his woman will stick around when he cheats, he most definitely WILL. Its sad that she thinks she can't do better. All the money in the world won't keep you warm at night when your man's out doin you dirty. The desparation IS sickening! If she marries him, she's in for a whole lotta heartache and pain.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like too many of us get caught up on the wedding and feel like we will worry about the marriage later on in life. I also don't think that marriage is any longer valued. People are treating marriage as though they were still dating. They have the flippant attitude of...if it doesn't work out...I'll just get a divorce. Gone are the days of Till death do us apart.
DeleteI agree that she will be subjected to a lot of heart break. The worst part about it all is that she is actually signing up for it. She did not and does not have a healthy functional relationship with her father so she expects to be disappointed and somewhat neglected, it's normal to her.......Thank you for your comment
DeleteMarriage and commitment is so mistreated and disrespected today. Society makes it look normal to flip flop in and out of relationships. They don't focus on the real beauty of relationships and commitment. They don't know the power in Till Death Do Us Part....Thank you for your comment