So, last night I was watching Basketball Wives (don’t judge me) LOL!! Anyway, I watched one of the cast members tell her fiancé that she would rather know if he was cheating, because she is not naive, she knows he is on the road and has access to other women. He then replied to her ‘this being committed to one person is something new he is trying and he is trying to become the man she needs and wants him to be. I am sorry ladies, but I just wanted to regurgitate!!!
Why does she feel like he is the best she can get? Why is he working on his self to become what she needs, wants and desires during the beginning stages of a relationship? Why is she giving him an out of being a real man?
Ladies, we must remember some very important things in life: we teach people how to treat us, if you set low boundaries, expect disrespectful results and/or treatment. Why are we waiting for his manhood to kick in? Manhood is not what’s between his legs, the hair on his chest, the base in his voice or how many women he can screw. Manhood is being a man of his word, be responsible in business and in his personal relationships, manhood is not pretending to be someone who you are not to please others. Manhood is taking care of your children without court assistance.
Ladies, why are we settling for less than what you are due? There are men who do not cheat and there are men who are grown and complete in themselves, ready and available for a relationship. I know the idiots come running towards you like gang-busters; however they are tests to see if you really know what you want and are willing to wait out the storm and idiots to receive it.
Listening to that woman talk saddened me, I was just baffled at the look on her face. She is going to continue to plan her wedding and hope and pray he doesn’t embarrass her any more in the future with rumors of other women, or worse like deliver her first class a disease. Set your standards and keep to them. A man wants to have his stuff together prior to hooking up with you if he has good intention and if he is man to the bone.
