Keep some things to yourself

So I am having a conversation with a friend, and she is talking about having her husband help her take her weave out. OMG!! I thought she had lost her mind. This was not the first time I'd heard this but still surprising.

Men do not need to know how we connect the dots. Sure, you have some men who were raised by single mothers, or are professionally informed of our beauty secrets, but other than that, NO DEAL!

Think about it, when men fantasize are they fantasizing about head rags, pajamas, crust in the eyes, wig heads on the dresser for the ambiance? No, men want to be enticed. What man sees a woman get out of the car in pajama bottoms, her wrap on her head and says "damn I want to get with her"? None

Men should not be helping us take our weaves out; we should be hygienically clean on a regular basis. I know someone who would smell under her arms in front of her husband and say "damn I'm musty" when I saw that, I thought to myself. wow!! Not only does he not want to know that, I can bet he does not want to smell it either.

Don't ever get so comfortable around anyone that you allow them to see you rub your booty on the curb, that is exactly what that is, rubbing your booty on the curb.

To all that are single, remember you get what you give. If you catch someone while in your pajamas and head rags nine times out of ten, his expectations are not very high for himself in his own life; therefore he is fine with the way you present yourself.