Be mindful of the words that come out of your mouth to your mate. Let us not get so comfortable with one another that we just talk to each other any kind of way. We are so careful in what we say to our supervisors or co-workers at work, church, or our neighbors ; all in the name of being polite. What about the person we are dating, engaged to or married to? Shouldn't we be giving them the best of us? Shouldn't we be polite and control the tone of each verbal exchange? I think so. Words can be damaging and cut like a sword, never to be forgotten.
Challenge: For seven days find something positive, meaningful and non-sarcastic to say to your mate and watch them soften to your voice.
Yup. I feel ya there. Years ago my wife and i used to curse each other out every day. It was like we were trying to one up each other on petty crap. We are now divorcerd. Funny thing though. Once we separated we began to speak to each other in a respectful tone especially for the kids sake and became friends. We both joke about how we actually like each other and how if ewe treated each other this way when we were married that we would not have destroyed our home. Now she's dating, and I found someone new but the kids are stil realing from our split. Wish I took advsntage of this advice when I was married.
ReplyDeleteHell. My girl just likes drama. If you want to get a sense of what I go through just listen to one of the songs on Musiq Soulchild's new album called dowhatwesay or something. Anyway. I can't catch a break. She complains about any and everything, and I am really losing it for her sexually as a result. I have stepped out as a result. I am not proud of it, but I need some tenderness sometimes. Life is just too damn hard and when a man comes home he shouldn't have to take crap in what is supposed to be his sanctuary.
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