Look the Part

Ladies and Gentlemen,

Dress up for your mate, bathe, put on some smell good and entice your mate everyday. Do not become so comfortable that you let your mate see your gristle. Who doesn't want someone who shines, glistens and smells nice in their presence? You don't always have to be in heels ladies or a three piece suit men. Just don't makes a habit of sweats and t-shirts, crust in the eyes, hair not comb and less than a pleasant scent. Do not allow your mate to just see the same ole same ole. Switch it up every now and then.

Ladies remember that men are visual creatures, they are naturally attracted to what they see and smell. Gentlemen, ladies respond to your words and gestures. Men, say something kind and sweet to her and flirt a little. When a woman smiles outside, she is smiling inside as well.

A sharp tongue

Be mindful of the words that come out of your mouth to your mate. Let us not get so comfortable with one another that we just talk to each other any kind of way. We are so careful in what we say to our supervisors or co-workers at work, church, or our neighbors ; all in the name of being polite. What about the person we are dating, engaged to or married to? Shouldn't we be giving them the best of us? Shouldn't we be polite and control the tone of each verbal exchange? I think so. Words can be damaging and cut like a sword, never to be forgotten.

Challenge: For seven days find something positive, meaningful and non-sarcastic to say to your mate and watch them soften to your voice.

loving your man

Sometimes as women we move so fast through the daily chores and maintenance of life with our children, our careers, our parents, siblings, friends and every other hat that we wear; we forget to be wives and girlfriends and what that Intel's. Being a wife and girlfriend can be challenging in the middle of living and the day to day functions in our lives. Our men not only desire our attention, but they need it as well.

Ladies take a moment to acknowledge, celebrate, smile, touch and/or just sit next to your man. As we know men and women speak two different languages; therefore it may take additional effort on us ladies to encourage our men to continue their daily task, or congratulate a victorious moment in their lives, and/or even as little as saying "I am so glad you are home". Just a few endearing words a day can make all of the difference in the world. Men naturally want to feel needed and appreciated for their contributions to our lives and when we begin to share and show gratitude for their efforts, their daily mission becomes a mission of satisfying and pleasing their women. Ladies allow your men to please you.